Okay, studying an opposite sex needs a lot of serious
cramming. Sometimes, you can foresee where the relationship is going, through
the things your partner is showing. If it’s negative, you can prevent bad
things that will happen, if it’s a positive, you can make it better.
But if you’re still a rookie on this maneuver, I am happy to
help you learn the art of reading body languages, expressions with double
meanings and feedback of your partner.
(This is based on experience, personal observation, books
and websites that I red and experiments.)
Let’s start in COURTING.
Boy:
1. 1. If a guy is courting you and he give you
chocolates, flowers, and cheesy gifts and love letters and take you to special
places.
- He likes you very much, that
exerting such efforts are easy. In this act, it also shows an obsessive side of
a guy, that he is infatuated and expressive. Well, giving gifts doesn’t sometime
shows that he really wants your sweet “yes”, though, he needed it, but
sometimes, what’s comes first is the undeniably fascination of the suitor that
he just want to give you flowers and airmail kisses everyday.
2. If you knew that your suitor
was courting somebody else aside from you.
- This is a bad juju, well, he is
unserious about you. Period. If he is serious, it was one princess at a time.
As far as I know about the Universal Courting Law, the girl only has the right
to entertain many suitors.
3. In the whole courting phase, if
the guy gets jealous in your exs or male friends.
I suggest that it is about your
own perception, darling. Well, you can see this expressive feeling in a good
way, you can think that it was, it’s just that he likes you so much that
talking or hanging out with guys causes too much chest pain. Or we can also
view it in a bad way, because at the first place he has no right to get jealous
for he is just your suitor. This is also a bad sign, because if you decided to
be with him, and you were officially, his girlfriend, he can be too controlling
that causes to much fight and to avoid the battle of reasons, you have to give
up a piece, a big piece of your social life.
4. If you are afraid that your
suitor will give up on you.
- This is a crystal sign that you
like him too. Well, that is true. Maybe you’re just afraid to show to him
because you’re not ready yet. But you need to make some effort to make him stay
and believe that in the right time, you and him was for each other. Typically,
if a guy saw negative signs from the girl he’s courting, he usually, slowly
stops. That’s a defense mechanism, baby.
Girl:
1. 1. If a girl shows appreciation, efforts of
thankfulness and electrifying kilig because
of your hardwork for her.
- This is a nice sign that he is
unto you. In this girl’s manner, I can proudly say, that you’re the topnotcher,
my boy. In short, she likes you too, that she expresses it through positive
hints like repaying the effort you made though it is not necessary. Fact: This
can be tricky. A girl is like a long- hard to spell single word, there is a
possibility that she is showing the same signal to her other suitor because she
can’t figure out who is the best among you two or three or four or many more.
But most of the time, WE are still showing positive indirect affection to the
one who stands the best. (Really, I’m one of them. Heeeh. ;D)
2. If the girl has a lot of
suitors.
- Okay, this is the phase that.
“may the best man win.” Well, if the girl you like looks like Gwyneth Paltrow,
Natalie Portman, Kim Kardashian or Anne Curtis, you really need a serious
courting strategy. This chic is hot that you are competing against the mob.
Mob. I mean, suitors, a lot of suitors.
3. If the girl shows a little
attention for you, keeping the stern treatment and only allows you to court her
because you’re a family friend.
- Man, you better stop or else you
will be shattered in to pieces sooner or later. Stop thinking that she is
playing hard to get because clearly, she doesn’t likes you and she just don’t
know how to tell you because you’re a family friend or you have given too much
teddy bears and cellphone load or maybe she had told many times already but
you’re taking it as a joke. You know, there’s a lot more than sticking to
fantasy.
4. If a girl courts you.
- This is a rare case, but this is
the bottomline, most of the time a girl courts you because she likes you and
you don’t like her. So in this scenario, be a man and tell her what you feel
though you will definitely hurt her. But what you did can change her whole life
because she can wake up to the dream that you and her have a chance. Getting
cut off is a bitter process, but atleast she learned, right?
Girlfriend-Boyfriend Chapter
Boy:
1. 1. If you asked your boyfriend if he wants
something, and he refuses.
- In this case, it’s better to ask
him twice, in the first attempt, like, “Babe, want a cookie?” and he says no,
ask him again just to make sure he doesn’t like it, for example, “Babe, you
REALLY don’t want a cookie?”. If he still refuses, that means two things, he
really don’t like it or he is really into playing-shy-guy.
2. If you feel that you are
competing with his past girlfriends or the girls he courted before.
- This is normal, everyone gets
jealous, even your dog gets jealous. So don’t take this in an awful way, this
is healthy because you shows that you don’t want to lose your boyfriend. What
is not normal is when your boyfriend wants you to compete with them. Stupid. I am
really annoyed with this kind of guy. Hey, it is wrong. If your boyfriend
really love you, he won’t allow you to hellishly compete with them, because
there’s no reason to have a competition. This shows two things: You’re a
rebound, second, you are really a rebound.
3. If you’re boyfriend is a DoTA
player.
- In short he’s the coolest man in
town, aside from varsity players, frat guys, rock band member or actual cool
guys. Also he’s addicted on playing computer games. But here’s the deal, you
don’t have to compare yourself. Everybody needs space. Everybody needs to be
happy. He might be happy by your side but he could be happier if he can do the
things he wants to, without you stopping him. Don’t refrain him from playing
DoTA or any computer games, or any recreational activity he is up to. Because
those things completes him. If you tell him or ask him if who would he choose,
you or playing DoTA that will be the point that he will wonder what or who will
he choose someday.
4. “I hate you.”
- He means it. Swear. Based on
personal experience. A girl can say “I hate you.” But it is more or less 70%
not true because of acute brief insanity because of emotional distress. A guy
was sometimes tough and stiff that he only said stupid things once. He can only
say things when he already can’t hold it in. He usually keeps things that he
wanna say to himself to save him and the relationship stake. If my boyfriend
wants to break up with me, I’ll just accept it, because he means it. And when
he came crawling back, I won’t accept him anymore. I have two reasons, first, I
will stand on my belief that a man has a one word, in short, it is to save my
victorious pride, second, I know, I will realize that he was a sissy after all.
Girl:
1. 1. If the girl wants you to shoulder some pieces of
her shopping spree.
- A girl is materialistic, by
birth. It’s up to her to control it. You can buy her stuffs that your financial
capability can bear. But don’t let her invade your own personal money for her
luxuries, don’t give her things that she doesn’t need and you can’t afford, you
will surely loose many friend, brother.
2. “I’m Okay.”
- This is crafty. Most of the
time, it is actually not Okay. A girl plays strong always. But you need to be
with her side everytime. That’s the best you can do. Sometimes, we don’t say
all the things we want to avoid drama. It’s in our boyfriends’ sensitivity to
check us if we’re okay, or if we’re really okay.
3. If you’re girlfriend is one
with the party people.
- Girls love parties. Well, some
of them. Socializing is one reason. Better understand her. Give her personal
space like he did to you. She’s a party people before you know her. She don’t
need to change just because you believe in the etiquette of relationship. Let’s
admit that [some] guys saw quiet, shy and home buddy girls are boring, right
boys? In your concern about the possibility of her, getting hook up with other
guys, or worst, get laid, just always tell her that wherever she’ll go, she
have your trust and that’s important, it’s up to her to break it or keep it. It
was like an oath of being a good girl and also a tap in her conscience. Hihihi.
4. “Talk To The Hand.”
- A girl’s emotion can burst
unknowingly. I suggest that you both, gives each other a distance, a healthy
time out. To think, collect and realize what had happen. Silence is peace.
After the healthy time out, which did not range for too long, as much as
possible, you better talk and reconcile. But don’t talk, if you’re still mad,
or you’re not ready to open your mind. You should have an understanding
perception. Communication ready. But if you’re still not ready, don’t ask or go
for a pep talk because it will lead to a fight again. Give up your pride and
everything will be a piece of cake.
MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING
Boy:
1. 1. If the guy suddenly didn’t text you or he stops
communicating with you.
- M.U is a confusing phase, it’s
between the duration of the stage, “Is it still crush or it’s already love?”
Sensitive in many sorts. There are many reason why, he maybe, realize that he
really don’t like you, but he already said that he loves you, so to escape from
the shameful misinterpretation, he will just stop talking to you, a guy is a
natural snitch. Another example, you we’re away from the keyboard but your FB
account or any social networking site that you appears as online, and then, he
chatted you, of course he’ll get no response, he will leave tons of messages,
and surely, you will not notice it, and then he will start to think crazy ideas
and stupid things, like you don’t like him anymore, so the wrong defense
mechanisms kicked in and he will just leave you hanging, thinking, what’s
wrong.
2. “I love you.”
- You’re in the middle of a mutual
unidentified understanding, so it might be pretty easy to reply with this
words, but as I said in number 1, this phase is confusing. So, as an advice, if
you don’t know what to say, don’t lie and don’t reply with such positivity
because there’s a big chance that you will hurt him and yourself. “Thank you,
HAHAHA, Wow, Okay.” Will be an appropriate words to say than lying.
3. If the guy wants to bring your
understanding in to the next level.
- Next level. This means he wants
you to be officially his girlfriend. But look, if you’re still not yet ready
for this chapter, you don’t have to rush. If he really loves you, he will wait
for you. There’s only one reason for him to rush thing, maybe he was confused.
He might seeing somebody else aside from you, and he don’t know who is who. To
stop his confusion, he will see who is ready to be her girlfriend. If you’re
aware of this trick, don’t fall, especially when you’re not ready, I told you
twice now. It’s like, you really know that a lion will eat you, but you still
lock yourself in its cage. In harsh short words, you’re SILLY. Well, being
stupid in relationship is quite common. So in the end, it’s up to your decision.
Atleast you learn, whatever happen, and that’s the best part, mi love.
4. If he kissed you.
- No biggie. It’s just show that
he loves you. I just don’t know what to say, if you already did the other thing
more than kissing.
Girl:
1.
1. If the girl is telling you what
and what’s not to do.
- Main thing, this is just
an unofficial understanding, so, I really think that the girl has no right to
tell you what to do. What she can did, is to suggest. Suggest of what you
should do, and it’s up to you to obey it or just go of what you really want.
But I really prefer the last choice.
2. “I don’t want to talk
about it.”
- This is the usual, common
lines of a girl who was been asked of a rushing guy. Okay, guys, read, don’t
pressure us, okay? We don’t want to hurt you, that’s why, we were not making
decisions so quick. Well, most of us. We were not depending on sugar rush or
too much kilig you brought. We think. Thinking carefully.
Here’s the deal, my
capability to tell you what is happening is limited. Well, it is up to your
choice if you’ll take it as a good vibrations or bad. Because, every kiss in
the forehead, smirk, holding hands, smile, tears, words, truths, and lies can
change the direction of a romance.
So in the conclusion of
this enigma, the answer is vested upon you. It’s still your choice to be happy.
But this is what you have to remember, whatever you’ll choose, just believe
that you’ll be happy with it. Don’t think that you’ll gonna regret it in the
future. We have the art of free will. And then, if ever you fail, you’ll say,
“Atleast, I made my own decision.”
Have a good one,
love! ♥
